RE: " The divorce will be finalized in a about 4 weeks... Anyone in CA who wants to give me their $.02 about how to handle the pre-trial meeting with her atty and mine is welcome to speak their mind to/at me, I'd appreciate it actually.

If you have to pay support (alimony) make sure to ask that it is reduced over time as I had mine. Bee-otch still refuses to get a "real" job but the courts saw through that.

I think you got luck in one aspect. My ex got to keep the Montero during the three years of divorce proceedings and just f'd it up until it barely ran and was trashed inside & out - then she turned it over to me.

On the plus side - I've been "parking my rig" in a lot of new garages since then & more frequently.

don't think of it so much as a divorce but rather getting early parole!