ok, well i ended up just ordering it all from advance auto as the prices were practically the same. everything is due here tomorrow. the head was checked and surfaced. it was indeed warped, i need to find out how much was milled but apparently it was not a lot. i don't know about these, but on a honda once you get past 30 thou from milling things can get hairy. but most of the time when surfacing they take off like 5 thou (in my experiences).

it looks like i should have this thing back together by the weekend, which would be awesome because i REALLY miss it. thanks all for your help, we'll see how the assembly goes.