Okay,

Thanks to everyone's help, this mystery is solved. The relays MUST be specifically Bosch part number 0 332 209 150. To everyone who had the same frustrations, go get these relays, follow Carterman's diagram and you are hooked up! Carterman, on your future update of the wiring diagram, I would specify the part about these relays, otherwise, the diagram was crystal clear and easy!

In addition, if you can get your hands on one of those old style antenna up/down switches, they make a perfect momentary on-off-on switch. Just take the 2 middle wires and the yellow/black wire on the UP side of the switch and plug them into the 12v source, and then take the 2 remaining wires and plug them into your 85 terminal wires, and you are good to go!

Kurt G.