my wife is only 3" taller and i have a 2" lift on my rodeo and 32x9.50's and a samurai with around 8" of lift and she has learned to adapt she gets in just fine now along with my son who is tiny. i say go with the 2" 1 inch wont make that much of a difference. i did mine and the wife never even knew about it i just told her i was changing the oil
and she never even figured it out til i told her when it came time to buy tires

if it don't fit, force it if it breaks, it needed to be replaced anyway