I'm not sure which head you are pulling. I recently had to pull the drivers side (my own fault) and it is fresh in my mind. I'm not sure what specific part of the disassembly you are having a tough time with but let me know and I may have a way to get around it. It was fairly simple except for the part where the head bolt broke off in the block and the part where I got the wrong timing belt.

If I were you on the belt I would buy a new Gates belt and follow the directions which come with the belt. The first thing I did on my 95 was the timing belt (the old one broke after the water pump locked up at 165k miles) - the only guide I had was that paperwork with the belt and I came out golden.

The head bolts need to be replaced - they are torque to yield.