I've been through it too. The sick feeling will go away with time. Just out of curiosity, what did you do?

You can be a good father to those girls and live across town too. I keep that in the back of my head when my wife and I are at it. <img src="/forums/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> Hang in there, and dont spend the whole winter drinking or your depression it will most definatly get worse. <img src="/forums/images/graemlins/kewl.gif" alt="" />

Your single now! go act like it! <img src="/forums/images/graemlins/patriot.gif" alt="" />

Michael,

Sorry to hear of your situation. IMHO, now's the time to start hanging out with your best friends, party friends (& since your active duty not the ganja kind).

If you're up to it find a local counselor or seek a mens help group. It may now help but at least you can share your tale which will be a good thing.

The last thing you want to do is do anything rash.

Hang in there. It should get better. As for whoring it... nah... you might end up catching something you won't want to have to keep... "like luggage" according to Eddie Murphy.

Ray

Off-roader gave you some good advice. Ya might need to camp under a Happy Light with a good book, given your situation AND this time of year. Even me and the dog need a light for about 2 months out of the year. I know you can schedule some happy light time with mental health; just take a book with you.
Counselling ain't a bad thing; hook up with a chaplain if you need to. It'll get you over the rough spots. Just remember you don't stop being a Dad after a divorce. Little girls need that badly, esp these days.

Hook up with Pete over at the wood shop and learn how to run some of that equipment over there. Pete's good company anyway. <img src="/forums/images/graemlins/kewl.gif" alt="" /> Hockey in town I believe is Fri and Sunday. Not sure what the Nanook schedule is up at the U. right now.

On the other Q.

American Legion in Moose Ck. Stay on the Old Rich out the gate for about a mile (?) Look for the sign for the Legion and the Fire Dept & transfer site. It's in the old elementary school behind the station.

Dinner Sat. around 5 or 6; $5. Chinese gift exchange. Number over there is 490-6830, after 2 pm if ya want to go and have questions.

Yah- 3000 competitors just got back after a 16 month tour in the sandbox; no ho-in' for you!

I have to keep a close handle on the drinking, I know that. But it's helping me sleep at night. I'm trying to build a strong foundation with the girls. They are my world.

Wanna know what I did? Really? I did NOTHING! I wasn't there, I didn't pay attention to her, I put myself first, it was always about me! Ask your ladies, they will tell you... That's NOT how it goes.

Wanna know what's funny, she kept coming back all these years and apologizing to me! She did NOTHING wrong and apologized to me! Can you believe it? What an angel! Can you see why my heart is breaking? I lost... everything. I did too little too late. She doesn't believe me this time, when I said I would change. I said I would one too many times and didn't.

I don't blame her. She did what I taught her to do... She stood up for herself. <img src="/forums/images/graemlins/kewl.gif" alt="" />

You're so sweet. Thanks.

I'll try to get the courage up to ask her about taking the girls to the dinner.

Well... I can take to girls to the dinner at the Legion tomorrow. I'm looking forward to it.

She's going out with a friend tomight. I don't want to know what she's doing. I wish I had some friends like she does that I can get out and visit with and use to get through this.

Ok... Here's a warbler for you... We just had a conversation about sex. We are possibly going to remain lovers. Is that weird? I mean it's how we started out, we don't want to get any STDs and we won't have to learn a new person or stress over who they've been sleeping with. Weird huh? What do y'all think?

First, eat something! Second find a project that will keep you busy for a while. Stay calm and don't do anything crazy, it will all work out over time.

<img src="/forums/images/graemlins/patriot.gif" alt="" />

Well the optimist in me is saying that perhaps it's not yet too late... but on the other hand a very good friend did that for a while because it wasn't over but eventually they did divorce. <img src="/forums/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

You could go to counseling for what bugs her about you and she may consider that you're serious about changing, but YOU will have to truly make long term changes, not just for the next 6 months or even 1-2 years. Even then this may not be good enough for her but whoeverÆs next will be very happy you did it.

If you do sleep with her, just protect yourself every time even the 1st time you do it until she tells you she's exclusively with you. I've know a ton Navy buddies that still have their "luggage" from a Westpac cruise they took over a decade ago. <img src="/forums/images/graemlins/zombie.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/forums/images/graemlins/shiner.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/forums/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> You don't want that kind of luggage.

You do need to face it & deal with it but not constantly especially if it's leading to an unhealthy situation. <img src="/forums/images/graemlins/kewl.gif" alt="" />

As for what to do to keep yourself busy, I'm no expert but the "logical" side of me suggests, if you don't have friends you can hang with, join some local clubs or organizations. What activities/hobbies in addition to wheeling are you interested in (tough to wheel 24x7)? Heck, I got pretty darned good at drawing (cheap hobby) and digital photography (also cheap w/ a camera) from doing this. ThereÆs also my aquarium, woodworking, etc. that kept me busy.

Use these hobbies to keep yourself busy so you don't dwell on things. That's how I got adept at alot of things & is one reason my sister now refers to me as a renaissance guy <img src="/forums/images/graemlins/lol.gif" alt="" />.

Dude. Thats a super deal. Gonna make it harder for you, but... maybe you can work it out.