thanks ... well i took it in to discount just to start at the bottom of the list and had them redo the ballance this time lug centric and I also checked the play for wheel bearings and tie rods... and now the problem is gone.. Just goes to show sometimes even if all the cules don't make sense still start at the simple things and work up. it was the ballance job!
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2003 TRD EXT.CAB V-6 SR5
supercharger+urd fuel mods
6inch fabtech+1RB
35 BFG MT 4.88's Stubbs sliders