Ya know thats one of those moments when you want to kick your self in the pants.

Ok so dont take the tranny cross member off. There should be enough play in the tanny mount bushing for install. I use a jack on the bell housing of the tranny when installing it to help align and hold the tranny in place. I will tell you know its a huge help with two people and two sets of hands to go high and low. If you really really need the extra movement to align the tranny(you really shouldn't but..) than i would undo the four bolts that bolt the tranny directly to the trany mount bushing, that way the tranny is still supported but free to wiggle.

There should be no prob with the driveline or shifters if you leave the tranny x-member attached. If you do De-attach
the mount like i said it should still be ok.

Like I said Im sorry if my head is out of it, so far the estimated bill to fix the puppy is $1500 and will prolly go up so I have other things on my mind.