Hi Larry,
You are not in an easy place, both my parent have passed on. My mom passed suddenly on Valentines evening 27 years ago. I was going to collage down in Fla and did not learn of this till after her services. My dad passed a year n half ago after withering away from Diabetes. Receiving the shells from the military honors broke me down. I have the flag and shells on a display for him.
I am now pre diabetic and with his demise fresh on my mind it is not comfortable. I do not have any children so I expect only my wife may be there as I fade away or at least I may do what I can for her as the years slide by.

At this point good thoughts are about the best we can have. Our relationship with loved ones that have passed on will remain as they are. We are the best that they could form us to be and hope we are as good as they wanted.

Your thoughts for him will always be with you. Peace.

Charlie