The more things you mention it sounds like we have identical vehicles. Our problems do not occur at exactly the same time but they are much the same.

I had that grinding noise you are speaking of in the rear of my truck. Even had my kids get out and listen while driving slowly down the street.

Took it in and sure enough it was the rear wheel bearing.

Hope that helps.

1997 T100 SR5, X-Cab, V-6, Auto, 113,000 miles, Bilstein shocks